After years or months of dating, you’ve decided to make it official. You’ve asked her parent’s permission to take their baby girl’s hands in marriage and now you’re on your to getting married to the love of your life! Since you and only you can truly express your love for her, you want to write your weddings vows. Splendid! The only problem is you don’t know the first thing about writing vows. It’s alright, you’re ok, you’re going to be amazing and she’ll love you even more just for trying. So, with that said, let’s go over some very basic ways to accomplish this and get you on the way to writing a beautiful, simple wedding vow for your ceremony, because you know that this very simple gesture will be a memory that’s embedded deeply in her mind and those heartfelt words will last a lifetime.
Here are 4 tips to help you write your own memorable wedding vows:
First and Foremost, Speak from Your Heart
This sounds easy but sometimes it’s not. Find a peaceful place in your mind which will allow you to slow down and relax a bit. It’s ok to close your eyes for a few seconds to collect your thoughts and imagine this amazing person standing in front of you, smiling at you and about to commit their lives to you.
Look into their eyes and take a trip down memory lane of all the wonderful experiences shared with this person. Think of all the secrets you’ve shared, the laughter and the intimate moments shared together. Feel how in love you are with him/her. Then, as you open your eyes to see this amazing loved one in front of you, think about what you would like to tell him/her at this very moment. Think no one else is there. No one else matters, it’s just the two of you and let him/her hear whatever your heart sincerely feels and desires.
I’ve seen a lot of my brides and grooms do this and often they tell me that they found themselves expressing their true and simple feelings. They often make a promise which reflects a special time of their lives. One bride said to her groom “I promise to wear your shirt to sleep every time you travel!” The look on the groom’s face was simply priceless and his smile simply told you that’s an intimate moment between them and he loved that. Their vows was received in a very deep and heartfelt way and what else could you ask for in your wedding vows?
No Matter What, Don’t Try to Impress People
In the course of planning so many weddings, I’ve heard quite a few wedding vows. One mistake I often come across is when people try to write their vow that is mouthful and impressive with the assumption this will make their ceremony more special. My darling brides and grooms, the truth is that it’s completely the opposite. Doing something like this will only accomplish one thing; it will only make your words sound fake and insincere and with that, your vow won’t have any impact on that amazing person standing in front of you and it certainly will not impact your guests.
The best thing to do is to be simple and genuinely speak from your heart. Regardless if you choose to do it in a format of your every day conversations just be genuine and your feelings will be reflected in your words.
Write Your Vows Down
Yes, it’s perfectly ok to write your vows down in the form of a letter and not on your Blackberry or any other phone for that matter. Writing this often makes you feel a little more comfortable and confident in what you’re about to say to your new spouse and yes; the same rules above still applies.
Feel Free to Read a Spiritual or a Romantic Prose
If you’re lost for words and you can’t seem to adequately express your thoughts; reading something beautiful, spiritual and romantic is a great way to get you thinking about what to say.
When reading, let yourself be inspired by the author’s language. If any of the words describes your loved one, write if down and before you know it, you’ll be writing a deep, romantic and beautiful sentence that reflects your feelings and in return you’ll have written the perfect wedding vow.
Well, you know I have to ask you what your plans are for your wedding vows! Are you writing your vows? Did you write your vows? Did you parents write their wedding vows? How are you approaching writing your vows? I know, tons of questions but you know I would love to hear from you.
Happy vow writing,
Violaine Diogene
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